Thursday, March 12, 2009

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.


I had been living all these years with the thought that one day, happiness, I mean profound happiness would find me putting an end to the waiting and seeking games, once I have found out who I am and my purpose of existence.

George Bernard Shaw is damn right, Life is about creating and not finding. No wonder my happiness is not always whole.

All these years, the answer I am looking for is just at the tip of my nose...(President Barack O is right, love, peace, joy, contenment can be found in unlikely places and events)...

Monday, October 13, 2008

Brand New Nappie

It has been a few months that I have been quiet...as quiet as a cold cadaver...It is because I had been busy with the operation of our baby angel Nappie.

After the struggles, here is a brand new Nappie, ready to face the world.
Thanks to Sam, Raymond and Mitch,my family (my mother most especially) CHandra and his friends and of course to mg IHG family. I would like to laud the efforts of Dr. Dizon and Dr. Baltazar. The host hospital had been PGH who did a wonderful job on making him a normal kid.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Wish Ko Lang

In my desperation to have Nappie operated soon, I have resorted to writing to "Wish ko lang" of GMA 7.
It was sent last Tuesday September 02, 2008:
Dear Wish ko lang,

Una sa lahat, ay binabati ko ang programa nyo ng Congratulations dahil sa maraming buhay na tinutulungan at binabago.

Ako po si Ruth Pujalte Chase, isang call center employee sa InterContinental Hotels Group.

Gusto ko pong ilapit ang batang nakilala ko sa PGH nang ako ay manganak: si Nappie Gallo Jr aka Dodong. Nagkakilala po kami ng nanay ng batang ito habang kinukuha ko po ang medical record ko sa ospital dahil kailangan po ng HR department para sa SSS benefit ko. Si Nappie po ay 3 years old na tubong Davao. Isinilang po siya na me Hirchsprung's disease ito ay klase ng abnormality nang isinilang siya. Nang baby po siya ay lumabas po ang dumi nya sa bibig. Kaya po ang mga doctor ng isang ospital sa Davao ay inilabas po ang kanyang bituka sa tyan para doon po siya dumumi. 3 taon na po ang lumipas at hindi pa rin sya normal ( kailangan nya po ng 2 operasyon, di makalaro ng malaya, maingat sa kilos para protektahan ang naka expose na bituka at ang kanyang pong ina ay hindi makabili ng colostomy bag dahil sa sobrang mahal. Gumagamit po siya ng improvised colostomy bag gawa sa plastic, tela at plastic na takip ng kape. Eto po ay prone sa inpeksyon. Hindi po
kaya ng magulang nya na ipagamot po siya dahil po sa hirap ng buhay. 7 po silang magkakapatid at bunso nya. Ang kanya pong ama ay empleado ng gobyerno na sumasahod ng P200 pesos a day.

Inilapit ko po siya sa aking mga kaibigan at sa pinagtatarabahuhan po. Sa madaling salita me mga kaibigan po ako sa abroad na nagtulung at nagbigay ng 30k para sa unang operasyon. Saludo po ako sa aking mga bosses at kamanggagawa sa company na pinag ta trabahuhan ko dahil sasagutin ang pangalawa nya operasyon dahil sa kalunos lunos na sitwasyon ng bata. Ang pera pong nalikom at sapat lamang para sa charity ward at hindi sa payward (nagkakahalaga po ng 60k bawat operasyon sa payward versus sa charity ward na 15-20k per operation) wala pa po rito ang mga gamot na kakailanganin ng bata.

Matagal na pong nakapila sa PGH si Nappie Gallo (November 2006). Dahil po ang original doctor niya ay nagmigrate na sa amerika, na endorse po siya sa ibang doktor. Hangang ngayon po ay hindi pa siya naooperahan dahil ang sabi po ng mga doktor sa PGH ay hindi naman critical ang kanyang lagay at uunahin ang mas malubha sa kanya ang sakit.

Hinihingi ko po ang tulong nya na maooperahan ang bata. Bilang isang ina, isang turok sa puso ko na makita siyang ganyan: hindi normal. Alam ko na may magandang kinabukasan na nagaantay sa kanya. Sana po ay maabot niya pa ang araw na iyon.

Alam ko pong wala imposible sa Dios at gagamitin nya pong instrumento ang inyong programa upang mabago ang buhay ni Dodong.

Me link po akong inilakip sa video ni Dodong para po makita nyo mula sa blog ko:

http://soitsme-outofthebox.blogspot.com/2008_05_01_archive.html

Salamat po ng marami at pagpalain kayo ng Diyos,
Ruthie
"Laugh when you can, Apologize when you should, Let go of what you can't change, Take chances, Give LOVE and have no regrets. Life is TOO short to be....... anything but Happy! :)"

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Thou Shalt Live Longer!

BE HAPPY and live longer....

PARIS (AFP) - - Keep humming "Don't Worry Be Happy". The 1980s New Age-inspired hit got it right. New research shows being happy can add several years to life.

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"Happiness does not heal, but happiness protects against falling ill," says Ruut Veenhoven of Rotterdam's Erasmus University in a study to be published next month.

After reviewing 30 studies carried out worldwide over periods ranging from one to 60 years, the Dutch professor said the effects of happiness on longevity were "comparable to that of smoking or not".

That special flair for feeling good, he said, could lengthen life by between 7.5 and 10 years.

The finding brings a vital new piece to a puzzle currently being assembled by researchers worldwide on just what makes us happy -- and on the related question of why people blessed with material wealth in developed nations no longer seem satisfied with their lives.

Once the province of poets or philosophers, the notions of happiness and satisfaction have been taken on and dissected, quantified and analysed in the last few years by a growing number of highly serious and respected economists -- some of whom dub the new field "hedonics", or the study of what makes life pleasant, or otherwise.

"The idea that there is a state called happiness, and that we can dependably figure out what it feels like and how to measure it, is extremely subversive," says Bill McKibben in his 2007 book "Deep Economy: The Wealth of Communities and the Durable Future".

"It allows economists to start thinking about life in richer terms, to stop asking 'What did you buy?' and to start asking 'Is your life good?'."

Growth in material wealth adds little to happiness once buying power hits 10,000 dollars a year per head, according to such research.

But happiness can be bolstered by friendship and human community, as well as larger social factors such as freedom, democracy, effective government institutions and rule of law.

In Veenhoven's findings, published in the Journal of Happiness Studies, a scientific publication founded in 2000, the strongest effect on longevity was found among a group of US nuns followed through their adult life -- perhaps reflecting the feel-good factor from belonging to a close-knit stress-free community with a sense of purpose.

While the lyrics from the Grammy-award 1989 "Be Happy" hit were inspired by popular Indian guru Meher Baba, nowadays, in more than 100 countries, from Bhutan in the Himalayas to the US and Australia, economists are working to put "happiness" indicators (a new kind of quality-of-life index) into the measurement of growth.

Happiness itself, according to the specialists, is generally accepted as "the overall appreciation of one's life as a whole", in other words a state of mind best defined by the person questioned.

In his paper, Veenhoven first looked at statistics to see whether good cheer impacted on the sick, but concluded that while happiness had helped some cancer patients suffering from a relapse, in general "happiness does not appear to prolong the deathbed."

Among healthy populations, on the contrary, happiness appeared to protect against falling ill, thus prolonging life.

Happy people were more inclined to watch their weight, were more perceptive of symptoms of illness, tended to be more moderate with smoking and drinking and generally lived healthier lives.

They were also more active, more open to the world, more self-confident, made better choices and built more social networks.

"For the time being we know that happiness fosters physical health, but not precisely how," he wrote.

"Chronic unhappiness activates the fight-flight response, which is known to involve harmful effects in the long run such as higher blood pressure and a lower immune response."

To improve good cheer, he said, there needed to be more research on the impact of residential conditions or on the long-term effects of school on happiness. And studies on job-satisfaction failed to address the question of life-satisfaction at work.

But these findings, he said, opened new vistas for public health.

Governments needed to educate people in the art of "living well", helping to develop the ability to enjoy life, to make the best choices, to keep developing and to see a meaning in life.

"If we feel unhealthy we go to a medical general practitioner," he said. "If we feel unhappy there is no such generalist. We have to guess."

"Professional guidance for a happier life is unavailable as yet. This is a remarkable market failure, given the large number of people who feel they could be happier."

Sunday, August 3, 2008

For all the WOMEN--this is for you


(MAYA ANGELOU'S BEST POEM EVER)

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own even if she never wants to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

a youth she's content to leave behind....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

HOW TO QUIT A JOB, BREAK UP WITH A LOVER, AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month... and a year...

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Another Milestone


I am at a point in my life where I am making a fresh start.
It feels great to know that I have a choice, yes, this is the choice I am making. It may change the course of my life and my son in the next coming years but we only have one shot at life and we better make use of it.
I have decided to end my relationship with someone so special to me. He is my one great, tough and stubborn love. He was the one I waited at the airport from 12noon till 4 pm...But I did not see him. Now my waiting has ended. I have killed every hope in me that we will still be together in the future. There is no more "US". And it may be sad now, but someday we will both be smiling with the choices we made. We never fought nor quarrelled from the beginning till the end and it's something worth remembering.
It's hard and painful but I must do this to end the long term pain.
Whatever the outcome, I leave it all to HIM.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Poems for my little AJ


MY DEAR CHILD
You are the poem
I dreamed of writing
the masterpiece
I longed to paint.
You are the shining star
I reached for In my
ever hopeful quest
for life fulfilled...
You are my child.
Now with all things
I am blessed.
- Author Unknown

IF A CHILD....
If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and
friendship,
He learns to find love in the world.